She’s currently one of the biggest stars, but despite her massive success, Shailene Woodley has managed to remain humble and unfazed by fame. Between her strong-willed family and her grandmother’s brilliant advice, it’s easy to see how Shailene has remained so well-rounded in an industry that has made so many other jaded.
The star opened up to Elle’s contributing editor Holly Millea for their April issue, where she discussed what love means to her, her family values, and more! Check out some quotes from the ‘Insurgent‘ star below.
On being all-loving:
“I’m all-loving,” she says. “I fall in love with people based on who they are. I never want to love like this”—Woodley holds her arms outstretched, as if to envelop you—”I always want to love like this.” She thrusts her arms behind her back, pressing her chest forward. “Heart centered, like, ‘This is who I am! And I love you if you love me for who this person is. And if not, I’ll still love you, but I ain’t fallin’ in love with you!'”
On what true love means to her:
“When you’re truly in love, for me, it’s . . . you’re my lighthouse! You’re somebody who holds me high, keeps me safe, you’ve got my fuckin’ back. . . .You also love me whole, wild, and free. You let me do me, and I’m gonna let you do you! And I’ll be the home that you return to.”
On her family life:
“I was born into a family of warriors, really strong people. It doesn’t mean that it was an easy childhood and we didn’t have our shit, because every family does behind closed doors. But even though my parents are divorced, they get along. I have a family who every day strives to do the right thing.”
Advice from her grandmother, and how it affected her:
“One day I was having one of my teenage crises, when you think everything’s falling apart—your estrogen and progesterone are freaking out. And she said, ‘Shai, the most important thing in life is self-love. You’ve gotta take care of yourself. You’ve got to take care of yourself, and you gotta live from your deep heart.’ For some reason, her saying the words deep heart just always stuck with me. And I was like, ‘Well, what is a deep heart? What does it actually mean?’ What I’ve come to determine in my life is that my deep heart is my—it’s my compassion, empathy, and intuition. Because your intuition never wants to be mean to somebody. You intuitively know that another human being on this planet is hurting just as badly as you may be. The way that they express themselves could be rude or seen as douchey or whatnot. But maybe they’re scared, or had no one there to support them.”